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February 22, 2005

The Distance We Keep


Shoot I always start these things with "so." Scratch that. Let's start again.

Why do we stay so far away from people?

Ahh... much better. Open, honest, maybe a little whiny, but hey, I'm not Bono here, cut me some slack.

Why do we stay so far away from people? The last few days (which really means a month or two), I have been trying to keep count of how many times i come into actual physical contact with someone else. Its just funny (read: sad) to think how loving and hateful each person you see in a day has the capability to be, and then to note how indifferent they are most of the time. I think it was kierkegaard who said that love and hate were not opposites - they are very close together at the top of a circle, with indifference being at the exact bottom. I've had days where I'd rather be punched than ignored. One more tally on my list for that day.

I've got friends that I'm better friends with on the internet than in real life. We keep it that way because we can be more open that way, and that gives us a good relationship in some respects. But we keep that distance because we're probably afraid to be friends on a more substantial level.

That's not really doing it for me. Hrm I had better expound on that for a little while longer.

We're good friends. If we weren't, we wouldn't talk about the things that we talk about. And we like each other. We come into contact occasionally in real life. But we didn't hang out when we had the chance. We don't hang out currently. We enjoy our separation. We find it to be useful, knowing we can't hurt each other badly, and not being able to love much either is a small price to pay for that... So we it would seem.
Anyway, I'm pretty sensitive to this sort of thing right now. But nevertheless, i still think its sad that I haven't touched a single person's skin today.

Posted by pedalboy at February 22, 2005 11:43 PM | TrackBack

We stay far away from people because we don't want to work at relationships. I know I don't... I also know that I could be perfectly content with people hating me than ignoring me. Ignoring someone means that they don't want to take the time to even consider your presence. Your very existence to them means absolutely nothing. Well, anyway...


Posted by: Katie at February 23, 2005 2:51 AM

The touching thing is an interesting concept. I have a friend who claims I have a three foot radius I don't let people cross. In reality, its just him, but that's another story. I guess you just have to make a time and place for these things. I think the best example that I can give of this is my friends I lived by last year. They were three guys that I spent a lot of time with. Every night before i went to bed I would go down and hug them all goodnight, like you used to do with your parents when you were little. It made me feel less alone before I went to bed. One night I didn't go down and one of my friends came over, wondering where I was. It had never occured to me that my act of comfort had also comforted others. I think that we need to make a time and place for things like this then, like I did. I no longer do this, but I do miss it. Its probably easier for girls as well, but like most things, its out there if you want it

Posted by: Allison at February 23, 2005 10:41 PM
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